Take great care of yourself, now more than ever. Manage your emotions, manage your health.
Step Five of Well-Meaning Advice
"The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think."
― Horace Walpole https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/8131.Horace_Walpole
Some spouses undergo the grieving process during the marriage. Others start this process once divorce begins. Working with a skilled mental health practitioner during the process can help you separate emotions from rationale. Strong, unchecked feelings always provide you with more reasons to spend money and stay in "victim" mode. Rational, balanced thinking is difficult to accomplish when it comes to divorce and emotions.
Nonetheless, logical based communications, negotiations and discussion is what needs to happen for a fresh, new start. Take great care of yourself.
- Remember, your friends may be telling you what you want to hear because they care for you and because they may not be equipped with the knowledge to provide you professional advice.
- Second, remember not to pay heed to hearsay. The "he said," "she said" type of destructive dialogue.
- Third, remember that not all situations are the same and every couple is different. If friends or family members share their story of divorce and emotions, it does not mean that their circumstances are the same as yours. Moreover, you may only glean at one side. You are not privy to the entire complex and entangled story.
See your doctor and ask for his/her support. Seek support from experienced professionals. See more than one mental health professional and take time to heal and regain your strength. Grief is long and painful process. Be kind to yourself.
"Divorce is mostly the grieving process of lifeless marriage. The rest is business."
- Angela I. Green, Divorce Mediator / Collaborative Attorney
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